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20th-Mar-2020

What type of friends you should avoid

By

Md Altaf Hussain :
ometimes people need a push to get rid of the bad people in their life. Maybe they want to get rid of their friend, but they feel guilty or mean so they continue to hang out together. If this is you, stop! You deserve friends who bring value and happiness to your life.
Here are a few types of friends you might want to avoid:
Critical friend
This person claims to be your friend, but they always criticise everything that you do and say. They don’t like your job, they don’t like the food that you eat, they don’t like your friends, and they make negative comments about your personality. You never actually do anything that affects them or their life at all, but they still seem to be overly invested in your life choices. There are lots of reasons why someone might behave like this. Maybe they’re super insecure or they’re just a naturally jealous person. Either way, they don’t have your back, so they’re not really your friend. It’s definitely best to cut people like this out of your life, as over time their negative comments can lower your confidence and leave you with low self-esteem. Friends are supposed to build you up and support you, not insult you and knock you down at every possible opportunity.
Who secretly hates you?
This friend cheers you on, exclamation points and happy face emoticons included. But in reality, they secretly just don’t like you nor want the best for. Be careful; because these people may want to appear like your friend due to strategic and calculative reasons and will likely mask their true feelings with eagerness and compliments. Your intuition always knows.
The promise breaker
He calls you and asks for a ride home from work. You readily oblige. A few weeks later, you find yourself in the same position. You whip out your phone and call him. When he finally picks up, he promises to be there in five minutes. Five minutes fade into ten, twenty, and then thirty. He never shows up. The Promise Breaker is the type of friend who is constantly breaking promises but still expects everything from you in return. This is a friend you don’t need to keep around.
Selfish friend
The selfish friend has super high expectations for you. They do not care if you succeed in your career and love life... but they do care about themselves, and they expect you to assist them in every way. They completely forget about your needs, but they expect you to prioritize their own needs.  If you're friends with someone like this, consider removing them from your life. Selfish people rarely change, and it can be mentally exhausting to be their friend. They will continue to demand selfish things from you, but they will never realize that their requests are selfish; they will think that they are being reasonable and fair. You need friends who actually acknowledge your needs as a person, instead of quickly dismissing them.
Always unhappy friend
The unhappy friend always has something to complain about whether it's their boyfriend, their job, their family, their friends, or the weather. Even when things are going well in their life, such as getting engaged or getting a promotion, they still find something to complain about. You spend lots of time trying to cheer them up, but they don't want to listen. People like this can be difficult friends, as their never-ending negativity starts to rub off on the people around them. If you spend a lot of time with them, you might start to notice that your mindset is changing and becoming more negative. It can be difficult to end the friendship, as you may feel slightly guilty, but remember that there is nothing you can do to make them happy. They choose to focus on the negative parts of life, and no amount of upbeat positivity from you can change that.
A friend that lies to you
Friendship is based on honesty. Small lies turn into larger lies if you believe them or show someone that you are okay with them lying to you. Lies by omission can become a huge problem in friendships as well; honesty is the best policy. It's better to have no friends than fake friends.
Always being negative
We all know someone that is always looking on the negative side of life. People like this are not really fun to be around and usually having them as close friends is not your best bet. You should not entertain negative vibes; it would affect you in the long run. n