To be more patient

Md Altaf Hussain
Do you feel like you give up too quickly? Maybe you lose your patience very easily, or you give up before you reach your goals? You could feel like you do not have as much self-control as you would like, which results in you losing focus and feeling defeated. This can have a big impact on our goals and our lives in general. When we feel as though we have no self-control, it can be difficult to stay motivated and focused on your goals. So, if you want to discover how to be patient today, keep reading to discover our top self-control techniques.
Patience as an adult can seem much more complicated. For those of us who grew up never quite learning how to show patience, it’s even more difficult. I believe that as human beings, our desire for swift reward or gratification is innate.
Self affirmations
Self-affirmations are positive sentences that you can repeat to yourself; this is a great self-control technique, one that is also spoken about when using the law of attraction.
When you repeat positive affirmations, such as things you are thankful for, things you have achieved or want to achieve, your core beliefs etc, it keeps you in a more positive mindset. This, in turn, will keep you motivated as you can reflect on what you have already achieved or things that you are thankful for.
When you are focusing on your positive beliefs, it can help with staying on track and being patient when trying to reach your goals. After you have repeated your affirmations to yourself, you should feel like you have the right attitude to reach your goals and stay positive.
This can also give you the motivation to carry on, as you will be able to add your new goals to your affirmations once you have achieved them.
Be realistic
Have a realistic view of life. First of all, in real life, things do not always happen as fast as we wish. Accept the fact that time moves at the speed of time and not at the speed of your expectations. That is patience.
Second, remember that you cannot always control your circumstances. Wise King Solomon wrote: “The fastest runner does not always win the race; the strongest army does not always win the battle; the wisest man does not always get the food he earns; the smartest man does not always get the wealth; and an educated person does not always get the praise he deserves. When the time comes, bad things happen to everyone!”
Make yourself wait
Instant gratification may seem like the the most ‘feel good’ option at the time, but psychology research actually implies the opposite. According to one recent study, waiting for things actually makes us happier in the long run. And the only way for us to get into the habit of waiting (and as a result, reap the joyful benefits) is to practice. Start with small tasks: Put off watching your favorite show until the weekend or wait 10 extra minutes before going for that brownie. You’ll soon find that the more patience you practice, the more you start to apply it to other, more irritating situations.
Develop spirituality
Many who believe in the Bible have found that by applying its principles, they can develop patience. A spiritual person is more inclined to display patience, along with other important virtues such as love, joy, peace, gentleness, and self-control.
Self Monitor
If you are able to monitor yourself, you will be able to keep track of your own behavior and see where you may be failing and where you are succeeding.
 Keeping track of this will help you to make changes to certain habits that may be hindering you and causing you to lose your self-control. It also shows you, on the other hand, what you are doing that is positive.
Self-monitoring is a great way to keep feedback on your own behavior, which will make it easier to evaluate and keep track of how well you are doing in certain situations and what you can change.
Use Rewards
Using rewards can really help with your self-control. If we know that there is something at the end of your goal to reward you, we are normally more likely to do it.
Having a short-term sacrifice will seem much more reasonable when we know that there is a reward for us at the end of it.
This is a great self-control technique, as it will help to keep you motivated and will give you an incentive to achieve your goals and to stay focused on them. This will also help you to be patient, as you will know that if you carry on there will be a reward at the end, and you will be less likely to lose your self-control.